Couples’ Goals – 5 Steps To Better Talks
November 22, 2023Effective Communication
When it comes to relationships, communication isn’t just a luxury, it’s a necessity. But let’s be honest, achieving open, effective, and meaningful communication can feel like a Herculean task. Why is it so hard to simply talk and listen? As per the findings of the Gottman Institute, successful communication in relationships boils down to the ‘Sound Relationship House’ theory, which encompasses building ‘Love Maps,’ expressing fondness, turning towards each other, and more.
Drawing inspiration from such research, we’ve developed a five-step model to enhance couple communication. These steps, fortified by psychological insights, can take your relationship dynamics from good to great!
Step 1: #ExpressingGratitude
Start by expressing gratitude! As studies like Emmons and McCullough, 2003 show, gratitude can significantly increase happiness and satisfaction within relationships.
Step 2: #VoicingRegret
Start by expressing gratitude! As studies like Emmons and McCullough, 2003 show, gratitude can significantly increase happiness and satisfaction within relationships.
Step 3: #ExpressingHurt
Drop the blame game, express your feelings instead. Saying “I felt hurt when…” instead of “You hurt me…” can make all the difference. Why? Because it promotes empathy and understanding (Koenig Kellas, 2018).
Step 4: #AskingForHelp
Start by expressing gratitude! As studies like Emmons and McCullough, 2003 show, gratitude can significantly increase happiness and satisfaction within relationships.
Step 5: #ActiveListening
And finally, listen. Active listening goes beyond hearing words. It’s about understanding the emotions and perspectives behind them. A study by Gearhart and Bodie (2011) suggests that active listening can lead to better relational outcomes and increased satisfaction.
But You Have to Try
With these five steps, you can transform your relationship into a space of empathy, understanding, and mutual respect. So, let’s embark on the journey to better communication!
#RelationshipAdvice #CommunicationSkills #ScienceOfLove
About The Author
Anna Elton, LMFT
With 15 years of rich experience in supporting individuals, couples, and families in navigating through life’s challenges and achieving their goals, Anna Elton, LMFT is a force to reckon with in the field of therapy. A certified trauma therapist, author, speaker, and presenter, Anna’s advocacy for mental health awareness and stigma reduction resonates in her professional pursuits.