SHARING MORE THAN A BED
SHARING MORE THAN A BED
Navigating the Complexities of Sex, Chores, and Bills in New Relationships and Cohabitation with Contemporary Family Therapy
November 3, 2023
GROUP #1
Discussion Prompt:
- Sarah and Jake have recently moved in together. While they enjoyed an active sexual relationship before cohabitation, living together has brought up unexpected challenges.
- Sarah feels pressured to be intimate more often since they share a bed every night, while Jake is struggling with the idea that intimacy might decrease now that they're always around each other.
- As therapists, how can we help couples navigate the shift in sexual dynamics when they begin living together?
Guiding Questions:
- How can therapists assist couples in setting realistic expectations about intimacy in cohabitation?
- What techniques can we use to foster open communication about sexual needs and boundaries in a shared living environment?
GROUP #2
Discussion Prompt:
- Alex and Jordan have decided to share an apartment. Both come from different financial backgrounds – Alex has been taught to save and be frugal, while Jordan enjoys living in the moment and occasionally splurging.
- They're now faced with decisions about splitting rent, groceries, and other bills. As financial disagreements begin, they realize their money habits reflect deeper values and upbringing.
- How can we, as therapists, guide couples like Alex and Jordan through the minefield of financial cohabitation?
Guiding Questions:
- What exercises can we introduce to couples to explore their financial histories and the emotions attached?
- How can we help couples develop a shared financial vision while respecting individual values?
GROUP #3
Discussion Prompt:
- Chris and Lee have moved into their first shared apartment. Chris, used to living with roommates, is accustomed to a chore chart and structured cleaning days.
- Lee, on the other hand, lived alone and cleaned whenever it felt necessary. Now, tensions rise as Chris finds Lee's approach too relaxed, and Lee feels stifled by Chris's structured style.
- As they navigate this new territory, how can therapists help couples find a balance in managing household duties?
Guiding Questions:
- How can therapists encourage couples to communicate their needs and preferences around chores without it leading to conflict?
- What strategies or tools can we provide to couples to create a balanced household routine that respects both partners' comfort levels?
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