Navigating the Complexities of Sex, Chores, and Bills in New Relationships and Cohabitation with Contemporary Family Therapy
November 3, 2023
Sarah and Jake have recently moved in together. While they enjoyed an active sexual relationship before cohabitation, living together has brought up unexpected challenges.
Sarah feels pressured to be intimate more often since they share a bed every night, while Jake is struggling with the idea that intimacy might decrease now that they're always around each other.
As therapists, how can we help couples navigate the shift in sexual dynamics when they begin living together?
How can therapists assist couples in setting realistic expectations about intimacy in cohabitation?
What techniques can we use to foster open communication about sexual needs and boundaries in a shared living environment?
Alex and Jordan have decided to share an apartment. Both come from different financial backgrounds – Alex has been taught to save and be frugal, while Jordan enjoys living in the moment and occasionally splurging.
They're now faced with decisions about splitting rent, groceries, and other bills. As financial disagreements begin, they realize their money habits reflect deeper values and upbringing.
How can we, as therapists, guide couples like Alex and Jordan through the minefield of financial cohabitation?
What exercises can we introduce to couples to explore their financial histories and the emotions attached?
How can we help couples develop a shared financial vision while respecting individual values?
Chris and Lee have moved into their first shared apartment. Chris, used to living with roommates, is accustomed to a chore chart and structured cleaning days.
Lee, on the other hand, lived alone and cleaned whenever it felt necessary. Now, tensions rise as Chris finds Lee's approach too relaxed, and Lee feels stifled by Chris's structured style.
As they navigate this new territory, how can therapists help couples find a balance in managing household duties?
How can therapists encourage couples to communicate their needs and preferences around chores without it leading to conflict?
What strategies or tools can we provide to couples to create a balanced household routine that respects both partners' comfort levels?