Love in the Time of Therapy: Three Reasons to Consider Couples Counseling

September 21, 2021 By Anna Svetchnikov, LMFT

“Choosing to pursue couples therapy is a sign of strength, not weakness. It takes courage and trust to acknowledge that a relationship needs work and to take the steps needed to strengthen it.”

– Anna Svetchnikov, LMFT

Relationships are like rollercoasters – full of ups and downs, twists and turns, and sometimes a few loops. Whether you’re newly in love or have been together for years, there’s no denying that every relationship comes with its own set of challenges. That’s why more and more couples are turning to couples therapy – or as we like to call it, couples counseling – to help them navigate the ups and downs of love. Here are three reasons why couples counseling might be right for you:

Rediscover Your Spark

Remember that feeling you had when you first fell in love? That electric spark, the butterflies in your stomach, the sense that you had found your soulmate? It’s a feeling that can be hard to hold onto, especially as time goes by and the realities of life set in. Couples counseling can help you and your partner rediscover that spark, and learn how to keep it alive. From communication skills to intimacy-building exercises, a couple’s counselor can help you reignite the passion in your relationship and fall in love all over again.

Learn to Fight Fair

All couples fight- it’s a fact of life. But not all couples fight fair. In fact, research has shown that the way couples argue can have a major impact on the health of their relationship (1). That’s where couples counseling comes in. A skilled therapist can teach you and your partner how to communicate more effectively, resolve conflicts in a healthy way, and avoid the pitfalls of fighting dirty. With the right tools and techniques, you and your partner can learn to fight fair and build a stronger, more resilient relationship.

Overcoming Life’s Challenges

From major life transitions to unexpected crises, there are many challenges that can put a strain on even the strongest relationships. Couples counseling can provide a safe and supportive space for you and your partner to navigate these challenges together. Whether you’re dealing with the aftermath of infidelity, struggling to adjust to a new phase of life, or simply feeling disconnected from your partner, a skilled therapist can help you work through your issues and emerge stronger and more connected than ever before.

In conclusion, couples counseling is an effective tool for anyone looking to build a healthier and more fulfilling relationship. Whether you’re hoping to rekindle the flame of passion, learn to fight fair, or overcome life’s challenges, a skilled couple’s counselor can help you achieve your goals. So if you’re ready to take your relationship to the next level, give couples counseling a try – you might be surprised at the results!


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  • Baucom, D. H., Shoham, V., Mueser, K. T., Daiuto, A. D., & Stickle, T. R. (1998). Empirically supported couple and family interventions for marital distress and adult mental health problems. Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology, 66(1), 53-88.
  • Markman, H. J., & Rhoades, G. K. (2012). Relationship education research: Current status and future directions. Journal of Marital and Family Therapy, 38(1), 169-200.

About The Author

Anna Svetchnikov, LMFT
With 15 years of rich experience in supporting individuals, couples, and families in navigating through life’s challenges and achieving their goals, Anna Svetchnikov, LMFT is a force to reckon with in the field of therapy. A certified trauma therapist, author, speaker, and presenter, Anna’s advocacy for mental health awareness and stigma reduction resonates in her professional pursuits.